As a parent it has become alarmingly obvious that while there is tons of advice and books on how to care for the physical needs of a child, there is not really much on how to teach your child to deal with emotions. And often what I have found is not based in much actual science or research. I am not really a fan of doing something that someone just thinks will work. Plus there is little to nothing about teaching older kids emotional health. As I’ve tried to do my best I’ve realized that I don’t even know if the things I’ve been doing for myself are good coping mechanisms or methods for dealing with my own emotions. So I started looking up information online and I found a few great TED talks that I think everyone should hear. With mental health issues, suicide and other emotional problems growing at an exponential rate, especially in children and teens, I don’t think it’s something that can be ignored.
How to Practice Emotional First Aid by Guy Winch
The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong by Amy Morin
The Power of Believing That You Can Improve by Carol Dweck
You Aren’t At the Mercy of Your Emotions–Your Brain Creates Them by Lisa Feldman Barrett
How To Cope With Anxiety by Olivia Remes
I listen to TED Talks while doing dishes, laundry etc. so I have listened to probably hundreds of hours of TED talks about emotions and mental health. These are ones that I keep going back to, because they give actions you can take to do something specific to help improve your mental health. And they work. Like anything that helps you improve your physical health they are lifestyle changes and can take some time, but it really is worth it, and it’s vitally important to teach children so that they can have good emotional health habits.